Touch Me

I had a conversation today with a friend who was experiencing a low amount of intimacy. It made me think about how much we as humans love to be touched.

I know me, being a women - I like to be touched all the time. I like to feel what you're thinking, I like to feel just you. Touching plays a huge part in the "I feel wanted category". It's such a simple thing to do, but an important piece everyone should have in a relationship.

Us ladies need and MUST have this. Touch my legs with yours when we're sleeping. Let me know you're thinking of me even though I see you're right next to me, its not the same thing. Touch my shoulder with your finger tips when we're at an event. Let me know that even though there are five different conversations going on, you're still involved in mine. Hold my hand in the car. Even if we're going down the street. It's all about the "I'm always going to be here feeling". It's nice to have.

No matter how long you've been together, touching acts as a way of flirting with each other. It keeps you wanting just a little bit more. I really like when it becomes playful. I think a lot of women do.

I know men love these things too, their just not as quick to admitting it like us ladies are. But we want to treat our men like we want to be treated, right ladies? Yes! Hello! Run your fingers through his hair, scratch his head, tug his ear lobes, kiss his neck and so on... Now if you're thinking sexual - that is not where I am heading. I'm think more on the casual lines here. I mean, you could get dirty but that's another conversation ;)

We never really grow out of thattouch me phase that begins when we're children, so why ignore it or neglect it? It's a beautiful thing.

I always found myself wanting to be touched after an argument or disagreement as a reassurance. We just need it. Like water, we have to have it in our lives, otherwise our bodies won't survive. Touch is a powerful tool. We need it to know you care, that you're here. We can see how much you care, we can try and feel how much you care. But when you touch someone, that's when their senses become intertwined and now you know it's all going to be okay.