Touch Me

I had a conversation today with a friend who was experiencing a low amount of intimacy. It made me think about how much we as humans love to be touched.

I know me, being a women - I like to be touched all the time. I like to feel what you're thinking, I like to feel just you. Touching plays a huge part in the "I feel wanted category". It's such a simple thing to do, but an important piece everyone should have in a relationship.

Us ladies need and MUST have this. Touch my legs with yours when we're sleeping. Let me know you're thinking of me even though I see you're right next to me, its not the same thing. Touch my shoulder with your finger tips when we're at an event. Let me know that even though there are five different conversations going on, you're still involved in mine. Hold my hand in the car. Even if we're going down the street. It's all about the "I'm always going to be here feeling". It's nice to have.

No matter how long you've been together, touching acts as a way of flirting with each other. It keeps you wanting just a little bit more. I really like when it becomes playful. I think a lot of women do.

I know men love these things too, their just not as quick to admitting it like us ladies are. But we want to treat our men like we want to be treated, right ladies? Yes! Hello! Run your fingers through his hair, scratch his head, tug his ear lobes, kiss his neck and so on... Now if you're thinking sexual - that is not where I am heading. I'm think more on the casual lines here. I mean, you could get dirty but that's another conversation ;)

We never really grow out of thattouch me phase that begins when we're children, so why ignore it or neglect it? It's a beautiful thing.

I always found myself wanting to be touched after an argument or disagreement as a reassurance. We just need it. Like water, we have to have it in our lives, otherwise our bodies won't survive. Touch is a powerful tool. We need it to know you care, that you're here. We can see how much you care, we can try and feel how much you care. But when you touch someone, that's when their senses become intertwined and now you know it's all going to be okay.

Clueless

I sit and think and sit and think,
until this day it remains a mystery
of why we hurt
and why we cry
to live with all this pain inside
but soon one day and very soon
things will show the light you need
and when that light begins to shine
so you will you and all you have
until that day just learn to breathe
in a way you never have before.

Standing Alone

I see your face and movement from your mouth,
I hear nothing.
I see the tears you try so hard to hold back,
their welting in your eyes.
I see your body language and
it doesn't make any sense.
I feel the pain,
but I'm not dead.
I feel the loss
with my heart.
I know love is sometimes nothing,
but I'm the wrong person to feel that with.
I know your heart has taken off,
but mine was here watching it go.
I can't see beyond today,
I am blinded with how I feel.
I can't tell you everything I want to say,
you're on one side and I'm on another.
I see your face and it makes me ache,
I see no tears and makes me think.

Kissing Chances and Sleeping with Risk

You take some and give some from each relationship you devote yourself too.

In some, you may have giving too much and taking less, and then taken too much and just felt like you didn't give enough. The equilibrium in your relationship was uneven so now the only thing that was left was breaking up. The cause of a broken heart, tears on your pillow, pain in your body and so on. We could go on for hours to list all the things that we feel when someone decides they don't want to be with us. You and only you have time on your side, mostly of when you decide to get out bed and get yourself together to begin the process of moving on. It sounds scary to think you could move on with your life without the one you were spending so much time with. In reality, you always could you just didn't want to. Now you're forced to.

As you begin to do all things you did before, you at one time thought that coffee would never taste the same, movies wouldn't be as funny, your bed would never be warm. And as the days pass by, you change your reasons of why you drank coffee and now it tastes better. You never liked going to the movies before so now it doesn't matter if it will ever be funny or not. And your bed heated right up when you realized the heater was off.

Start kissing those chances since they are the ones that will help you decide in all good things. Selectively sleep with risk and understand that without the risk there is no chance.

Adore Me Now

When he adores you, you should feel like there is no worry in the world even when you have a hundred of them.

When he adores you, you start loosing the times when one never did.

When he adores you, you feel like the women that was made for the passenger seat in his car.

When he adores you, you don't wonder or question anything.

When he adores you, allowing things to fall into place feels natural.

When he adores you, he acts like another part of your body.

Then when you realize that he adores you, you loose your breathe. You start to understand the reasoning behind the failed relationships. You know that there are more things to be done and less to be said. One day at a time.